Alright babes, I’ll join in on the game. Just no work stuff please. Otherwise:

* Confessions/secrets: https://confess.ngl.link/danirabbit
* Hit on me: https://ngl.link/danirabbit/rizzme
* Ask me anything: https://ngl.link/danirabbit

Thanks anon 😘 I’m sure you’re cute too

Haha I have one so far! I have a semicolon on my left wrist. I think my next one is gonna be some lavender. I’ve been really wanting that one for a while, I’m just trying to decide where to put it. Suggestions welcome :)

Aww that was cute. Thank you! 🩷

Haha, well I pretty much am swamped in elementary stuff, but I did get some encouragement to revive my little weather app and I should have a new release published in AppCenter soonish. But hey I said no work stuff!

I don’t know who that is 😬 I pretty liberally mute and block though. Gotta protect that peace ✌️

Sounds like you’re straight, homie 🤷🏻‍♀️ Trans women are women and women are beautiful and amazing ✨

Not typically, but for you anon I can do the cat girl thing, nyan :3

@danirabbit That one was me! Meow!!

@jaiden

@danirabbit That is actually an image of me (I am a cat)

One of my staple foods is spam and potato tacos. I used to eat this frequently growing up. Otherwise, biscuits and gravy is always a good one. Burgers are always fun too because you can change up the cheese or the sauce or other toppings and have a lot of fun that way

Haha that was cute 🥰 Just for you, I’ll let auto complete reply:

“Yeah I guess that’s what I was like talking about”

Does that mean I elude you? 😂 I think this is a miss. Try again anon lol 😘

Here’s some photos! Spam and potatoes, beans, and rice. I think this one also has linguiça. And then biscuits and gravy with bacon. And finally a smash burger with Muenster and cheddar and I just made like a pretty standard burger sauce with mayo, mustard, ketchup, Worcestershire, salt, pepper, maybe diced dill pickle if I remember correctly

I don’t really have one! It very much depends on context for me. Otherwise I guess like the most generally pleasing colors to me are in the blue/green range

@danirabbit biscuits and gravy, honestly top tier

Ha, I’m afk but I think it’s probably either a git push or Flatpak builder 👩🏻‍💻

Haha omg 😂 Very creative anon. You can slide into the DMs. Congrats on the rizz lol

None so far 😅 🤞

Aww that was sweet 🥰 As a Leo, I will always enjoy blatant praise haha. I’m blushing, anon

Lol oh no. This is like negative rizz, anon. Don’t ruin the magic if it’s working 🪄 🎩 🐇

Omg haha I literally laughed out loud at the crypto one. Good one, anon 😂 These are great 🩷

After a shitload of therapy, myself 😤 I’m resilient as fuck and I’ve overcome a lot

Haha I had to urban dictionary this so hopefully I’m responding to what you’re actually asking 😂 Not at all! I’m like super loyal and I typically spend a good amount of time single between relationships

Some of my core values are kindness, empathy, compassion, and honesty. I try to live authentically and intentionally. With my time here I want to experience as much joy as possible and hopefully leave things a little better than I found them

Haha not really. I’m kind of an over-sharer sometimes. I just post everything 😅

Aww thanks, anon. I’m glad that you’re getting value from me just blabbing away over here haha. I would concentrate more on the euphoria and following that, but it’s ultimately up to you to figure out your gender and how you want to present. If you haven’t already checked it out, a really good primer on gender and transition that might help you sort your thoughts is https://genderdysphoria.fyi/

Omg lol. Why

Awwww this is so sweet 🥹 I love cuddles under blankets. That sounds really nice, anon 🩷

Negative rizz, anon 🤦🏻‍♀️

Haha that’s fucking cute. This made me smile. Thanks, anon 🩷

Hey it happens. I’ve definitely had life get in the way of focusing on school or even just not understood a subject. I think I dropped every math class I tried to take in college lmao. I think I ended up with a D in my “Linux Operating Systems” class

Aww, shoot your shot, anon! I’m just a person. Only caveat being that I don’t date men. But otherwise, I’m single and friendly 🩷

@danirabbit It took me 8 years to get my bachelor's degree in Engineering (instead of the usual 5 here), but I managed to work as a part-time developer during those 3 extra years where I spread out all the repeated courses (2 or 3 courses per semester only), didn't know I had ADHD back then. When I graduated I already had a lot of experience and it wasn't long until I held a senior position, so it worked well for me.
So maybe don't worry too much, anon.

Awww this one makes my day. Thank you, anon. I really appreciate you saying that. I’m really just a girl that spends way too much time online lol but thank you 🩷

Haha omg I have no idea what this was intended to be. Points for effort, anon 😂

Not sure there has been one tbh. But way more pick up lines and compliments than I expected, which has inflated my ego to new heights lmao My therapist will be pleased if it leads to me raising my standards 😂

I appreciate the compliment anon, but this makes me a bit uncomfortable tbh

What. Is this intended to be a car? I dunno if the ASCII art thing is working out, anon

Haha I can’t say tbh. I wouldn’t be able to name a song. I just looked them up and I recognize the chorus of “Reelin’ In The Years” and yeah I enjoy this

French fries in a milkshake is the only thing I can think of haha. I’m not terribly adventurous with food. I can really easily just get the ick and have to throw out whatever I’m eating entirely. Probably the ‘tism

hello 👋 😊

I’ll play it obsessively for like a few days straight. Like losing sleep, just pouring hours into it. And then I’ll forget it exists for a year or so lol

Oof. I’m so sorry, anon. Hope it gets better 🤞

I didn’t grow up in an environment where I was educated about or supported in transition. I basically thought I was fucked up or had a kink or something. When you don’t fit into masculine roles the first thing people think is that you’re gay and I knew I wasn’t attracted to men so I tried (poorly) to suppress my femininity. I didn’t really know that transitioning was an actual thing separate from cross dressing until my 20s and even then it took me a long time to find self acceptance

When I finally came out it was after quite a bit of therapy and my biggest fear at the time was being alone. I was afraid that if I was trans it would mean being abandoned by my friends and family and that it would make my life way harder and I was scared I would never find love. I had to get to a place of accepting that I may lose absolutely everything but that if I wasn’t willing to risk that, I would continue to be depressed and suicidal

Haha well the imposter syndrome is powerful so I don’t always feel particularly skilled or accomplished. Sometimes I get stuck on something and I feel like a total noob. I spend a lot of time reading documentation or other people’s code to understand things. I’m not sure I deserve to be put on a pedestal or anything 😅 but thank you for the compliment 😊

Lol, I’m not sure what would constitute betrayal, but I’ve tried other distros on some of my other devices. I tried Manjaro on my PineBook Pro and I’m not sure what distro I have on my PinePhone Pro right now. I’ve been meaning to set aside some time to check out Nix and NixOS. Trying out different things is good I think to have different perspectives and see where we could learn and improve

If I had grown up in an environment that supported me and gave me a positive sense of self worth and knew that I had the option to transition and that my life would be okay and I would be happy and not isolated and rejected, I’m certain I would have done it way earlier

Haha that’s a lot of what if’s! I think when I was younger I probably would have said yes to working for Apple but I’m too old and stubborn and egotistical now. I’d much rather get to do my own thing and not be tied up in corporate politics. Probably not a good financial decision, but I’ve tended to optimize for freedom over money in my life choices haha

Thinking about it more, I’m not sure I knew about HRT until after I was 30 either. So in my 20s I would do things like pluck my eyebrows and shave my legs and even grew my hair out fairly long a few times and then be like overwhelmed at how my body was still a man body. If someone would have told me there’s a magic pill I could take to have boobs and curves and soft skin and it’s super inexpensive I might have started HRT even before having the courage to come out completely

I’ve seen it in passing like on Reddit but I haven’t spent any dedicated time looking at it

@danirabbit all of this! This is very similar to the reasons it took me so long as well.

@danirabbit

I'm sorry it was a rocky road (and that it continues to be for so many) but I'm so glad you've found your way here. It's so wonderful to see you so happy and thriving. 💜

Aww sorry anon, I am very very gay ❤️🧡🤍🩷💜

@danirabbit one thing I used as an excuse/reason to convince myself not to transition is that I was “just looking for anything to fix my depression” and latching onto the idea of transitioning. I scared myself out of starting with that by saying I’m wrong and I’ll just either carry on being depressed or make the depression worse cos i would *then* have the wrong body and need to detransition again. Mental hurdles for the win 🙄

@danirabbit you’re great and beautiful, the world is better with you :) i’m glad you found your way even though the beginning was difficult. everyone should have the right to be however they want to be

@kelluri Thank you! I’m very happy to be here as well :)

I don’t have any! But if I were to have some, I love these sleepy Pokémon: https://www.target.com/p/pokemon-charmander-sleeping-plush-buddy/-/A-79833009

Haha classic. Thanks, anon. Not very creative though 😜

Admittedly, F1nn5ter is very cute and breaks my brain a bit, but I just can’t picture myself getting physical with a guy 😅

@danirabbit as someone who is, for the most part, disgusted by penises - F1nn5ter can get it lmao

@danirabbit i don’t get this one, wouldn’t anyone get hurt from a fall?

@fcktheworld587 Yeah if he ever transitioned I would be down lmao

@alice haha this is like kind of a butchered classic pickup like. The idea is that you take someone off guard and get them to pay attention to you by asking, “Did it hurt?” And in their confusion they’re now talking to you and say “What?” and you follow up with, “When you fell from heaven 😉 😘 😉”. But everybody knows it now so it doesn’t really work as intended anymore lol

@danirabbit I see ^^

@danirabbit you might also be interested in the Pokemon Sitting Cuties plushies, here is a YouTuber animator making a tier list of the entire gen 5 line 😅
https://youtu.be/aMh4VQBX2Ig
I'm not a fan of gen 5 (only 1 and 2, maybe 3), but I still watched that entire video 😅 (and she plans to make videos for older gens too)

Thanks anon. Always appreciate a compliment 🥰

Lmao. I am not huge on dogs myself. I feel like they can be a bit of a sensory overload and there’s a lot of dog owners who will just not care if their dog is jumping on you or shoving their nose in your crotch in a public place and it feels very inconsiderate.

@danirabbit better than using a rental scooter to escape from a dog that's following you... Or having a dog bark at you when you jump away when it runs right near you and scares you. I get a lot of really unpleasant dog encounters like that over here :(

(wasn't me sending the confession tho)

@alice ah yeah, I’m assuming you’re talking about stray dogs? I don’t really see stray dogs around here but mostly inconsiderate dog owners with their dog off leash just letting them do whatever to whoever

🩷 Thanks, anon! If you attend any open source conferences we may indeed meet someday! I still need to get my passport sorted but once I do I’m hoping to get back out there

Ones I’ve watched repeatedly include like obviously Miyazaki films and Akira and other classics. But as far as shows, I’ve seen Full Metal Alchemist several times, Your Lie in April, Yu Yu Hakusho. Mushoku Tensei I’ve seen twice and loved it both times. Made in Abyss is horrific and beautiful. I’ve actually watched the first season of SAO like 3 or 4 times as well haha

Male failing before HRT is awesome! I did not experience that haha. I think it took me like 6 months of HRT before people really started to assume I’m a woman and probably a year+ before I really felt like I see a woman in the mirror every day.

Haha so gross, anon. A true confession. I do not ever drink milk by itself and I haven’t purchased cow milk in probably years, with the exception of like buttermilk for a recipe. I pretty much only use milk when cooking and it’s oat milk for me

Omg spill the details, anon. Where? Of what? The people deserve to know 👀

I am dating currently, yes 😊 Not trying super hard at it right now but I’m open to finding someone great

Haha, the way I see it my AGAB may have been male but no I wouldn’t say I was ever a man. I tried real hard to be one, but I wasn’t very good at it. So glad I gave that up 😅

Sadly this did not make noise when I opened it. I have no idea how this is intended to work. Boo. Sorry anon. I’m doing great though! Started off my day with a tough Apple Fitness+ strength training workout and then some yoga and I’m gonna go do dinner and see Guardians of the Galaxy later with friends 🩷

As long as you’re not mean, anon. We’re here to have fun and maybe learn some things :)

Haha I wish I could hear these! No worries and I bet you’re both great too!

Probably the closest thing is Disc Golf! One of my goals this year is to get back to playing. I got decent at it a couple years back and I’d love to play in the local tournament again

In a public bathroom lmao. I was like 16 I think? If teens don’t have a safe place to do it, they will do it in unsafe places. That’s all I have to say about that 😂

Somebody figured out the AI thing and used it to send me what I think was intended to be homophobic Joe Biden

Lol, if you’re a straight couple your wife is correct 😂

Oh nooooo. You understood the assignment anon lmao. I’m sure you’re a wonderful person though and could attract people all on your own 😘

I’m not sure there’s a “general orthodoxy” but as far as common tropes, I cringe really hard at suggestion that someone is only their gender once they come out or start HRT. Like the Dylan Mulvaney “n days of being a girl” thing I think is ultimately harmful to less privileged trans folks and can even come across as transmedicalist. On the flip side I will absolutely die on the hill that trans women on HRT are biologically women and have transitioned their sex, not just their gender presentation

Haha I guess Greek just because that’s what I’m more familiar with? I probably should learn more about Norse mythology tbh. Educate me anon. I’m here to learn 👩🏻‍🎓

As far as I understand there is a high “co-morbidity” between autism and gender dysphoria, but neither of these diagnosis are trauma-induced. Trans and neurodivergent people often experience trauma because of the way society treats us, but trauma doesn’t cause us to be trans or neurodivergent

Personally I find the concept of “laziness” to be kind of ableist and shitty. If you’re happy not going out much, then there’s nothing you need to change, anon. Some people get energized by being around other people and some get drained. I just had two social days in a row and I am done interacting with people for a while lol. I do not want to be social next weekend for sure.

Kind of a philosophical question right? I think generally the idea of virginity is kind of heteronormative and patriarchal. Like if you think about what constitutes virginity in a queer context, it becomes a lot harder to justify its existence. But with my purely feels-no-thoughts hat on, I do kind of feel that way. Like there will be a clear delineation for me where I will be able to experience sex “for the first time” in a body that I’m actually comfortable in and that’s fun to think about

Thank you mommy 😘

You’re*! Also, thank you 🥰

Aww. I only date ladies anon just so you’re aware, but I’m always down for drinks!

Hmm I guess coffee? I dunno I have hot coffee every morning. Besides coffee, like hot apple cider is pretty great

I mean, if you want to not pirate it then get a Switch? There’s a ton of Mario games included in Switch Online 🤷🏻‍♀️

Bruh 😒

I don’t know :( it’s frustrating and it makes me sad because I love California and I love Sacramento and I hate being afraid that the rest of the county will affect us. I really want to believe that there will be a breaking point and it get better somehow

@danirabbit Definitely headed to a civil conflict of some kind. Not giving up my guns.

Honestly I’d rather fucking not. I know how to fire a rifle if it comes down to it, but I’m old and have problems with my breathing

Lmao, something something character limits. Also, what counts as an ex? I feel like the older I get some of the relationships I’ve had feel a lot less meaningful and being completely honest I don’t remember the names of everyone I’ve dated anymore 😅 I think the most important question I ask myself about my past relationships is if I learned and changed and grew, whether that means I fell short as a partner or learned not to accept less.

I do not. I canceled my Netflix a while ago. I mostly watch anime tbh. I finished Horimiya recently and The Girl Next Door Spoils Me Rotten. Also currently watching Demon Slayer and Vinland Saga. Explosion On This Wonderful World has been cute. Oh In/Spectre I saw recently and that was good.

Apple TV+, Extrapolations is good and pretty wild. It gives Black Mirror vibes kinda. Shrinking was cute. Big Door Prize is alright but I haven’t been like hooked on it.

@danirabbit Severance on Apple TV+ is exceptional, if you haven't seen that!

Like 5’9”ish. 5’10”. (~176-177cm). Sadly much taller than the women’s average here and also much taller than other women in my family. My mom is like 5’3” (160cm) so I’m a giant next to her

Someone left some shitty transphobic comments about my body 🙄 Don’t know what the point of that is tbh. How insecure must you be to want to tear down others? I’ve never felt more attractive in my life. I doubt that anon can say the same 💁🏻‍♀️

I’d like to spend more time in Europe in general! I’ve been to Spain a couple times but I would love to see France and Italy. I’d like to see more of Germany. I’ve never been to Netherlands or the Nordic countries. Ireland. I’ve also never been to Asia or Oceania at all. Basically anywhere that I’m not illegal or in danger to go, I would like to see it

I’m sorry anon 🫂 It is really hard to navigate these kinds of relationships with family. It’s unfair that it feels like we have to sometimes accept these uncomfortable and hurtful things. I try really hard to focus on intent and giving grace to people who are genuinely trying, but also remember that we can take space when it’s overwhelming

I could probably do a whole thread on what to do about Christian nationalism, but I don’t think that we can fight oppression with more opression and especially not against a foe who fantasizes about being an underdog. Lady justice is blind. We should create laws to protect ourselves from religious extremism, but singling out a specific religious group in the law isn’t the way to do it imo

It’s wild that there’s enough of us for it to be kind of a trope, but ultimately we are a minority within a minority within a minority. I’m not sure I have helpful advice since I’m in kind of a unique and privileged position with work. It is definitely frustrating to face transphobia, homophobia, sexism, and ableism all at once when you’re just trying to get your work done. I’m sorry that you’re having to deal with it all 🫂 I rely pretty heavily on therapy personally

I’m not gonna post the image here, but hopefully the response makes sense without it:

I don’t think we should speculate on or out someone as being LGBTQIA+ (full acronym here because it’s an important reminder of who all is included) regardless of whether or not they are a good person. It sucks that there are queer people who use their power to hurt other queer people, but I think it’s important that we don’t use queer acceptance as a reward for good behavior.

Haha thanks, anon. You might not see it, but I do make an effort to hand out compliments liberally :) but in case you haven’t gotten one from me lately:

You look cute, you did a great job, and I’m proud of you! I’m glad you exist and I appreciate that you use your time to make this world just a little bit nicer to live in. Thank you 🩷

Haha got a couple of transphobic comments. The right really can’t meme. Oh no babe, my chromosomes? Oh you really got me 😂

Stop asking if I would quit elementary to get paid more money doing something else. It’s a fucking boring question and obviously the answer is “no” since I haven’t done that.

Some of y’all need to learn the difference between “inside thoughts” and “outside thoughts”. If I don’t post yours, it was probably an inside thought you should have kept inside

I’m assuming this is re: being a girl. Everyone’s goals are different so there’s no one way. I recommend talking to a therapist to figure out your gender goals. Changing my biological sex with hormone therapy was a really important part for me, so if that’s something you want to do then you should talk to your doctor about it! If you want to choose a new name or go by different pronouns you can do that. You can wear any clothes that make you feel good. DM me if you need more help 🩷

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Also, subreddits like r/asktransgender and r/mtf have been super valuable for me. I definitely recommend reading https://genderdysphoria.fyi. There are lots of resources and communities that are there to help and support you. You are not alone :)